"'Checking' yourself means you are looking for, indeed seeking out, flaws and problems, whether real or perceived. Doing so has the impact of magnifying whatever is there, again whether real or perceived. You are actually teaching yourself to automatically look for and find problems."

Stay Attuned ™: The E-zine for Nourishing Connections

Your journey to freedom from food and weight struggles presents an opportunity for not only a new relationship with food, but also a new relationship with yourself and others. Ultimately, it is a journey of nourishing connections with yourself, others--and yes--even food. The Stay Attuned™ E-zine is committed to supporting you in this journey and to helping you develop nourishing connections that will last a lifetime.

Remember, a journey always starts with one small step....

From fellow travelers,
Karin and Amy

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November 2004
ARE YOU A CHECKER?!

Nourishing Nuggets

“I don't want to get to the end of my life and find that I lived just the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” ~ Diane Ackerman

“See your body as a trusted and treasured home for yourself to enjoy and use fully, rather than as an aesthetic object.” ~Susan Kano

Reflections for Staying Attuned

Are you a “checker?” Do you constantly “check” your body to see if you look okay? For any sign of weight change? To see if your hair, make-up and clothes are perfect? To see if you are okay?

Constantly scrutinizing yourself is a guaranteed path to unhappiness. “Checking” yourself in this way means you are looking for, indeed seeking out, flaws and problems, whether real or perceived. Doing so has the impact of magnifying whatever is there, again whether real or perceived. You are actually teaching yourself to automatically look for and find problems. Eventually, the “flaws” become the only thing you see when you look at yourself.

Checking can also cause you to miss out on life. Do you hold yourself back because your body does not measure up? Do you avoid participating in certain aspects of life, waiting for the day your body passes the “check” test? Have you missed activities—like swimming—because you did not like the way you looked in the necessary outfit?

What would you be noticing or experiencing in life if you were not checking?

Stay Attuned Tip

For just one day, decide to notice every time you “check” yourself (on the scale, in the mirror, by asking others’ opinions). Notice your self-talk and whether it is helpful or hurtful. Each time you do, counteract that by noticing and appreciating something your body has done for you within the preceding hour, no matter how seemingly inconsequential.

For instance, you “check” to see if your stomach looks flat. Immediately think back and say, “I appreciate that my body got me from my car to my front door.” Notice how this seemingly minor event is really not so minor when you notice and appreciate it!

Stay Attuned Affirmation

My body is a trusted and treasured home that I appreciate and use fully.

What's New at Nourishing Connections

Eating is a fundamental act of love and nourishment. Find out more with The Eater’s Agreement.

Feedback and Closing

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Stay Attuned™ is written by Karin Kratina, PhD, RD
(Dr.K @ nourishingconnections.com) and Amy Tuttle, RD, LCSW
(amyt @ nourishingconnections.com). Edited by Cassie Tuttle.
Please visit us at www.nourishingconnections.com!

© Copyright 2004. Dr. Karin Kratina and Amy Tuttle. All rights reserved.

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DISCLAIMER: This information is not intended to constitute a professional relationship between Karin or Amy or the reader, nor is it intended as therapy or counseling. Be sure to consult a qualified professional if you require medical or psychological services.

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